You might find yourself following along with your partner’s imagination, or you might be taking the reins yourself.If you’re shy, your partner might only need to know that you’re a willing participant to take off and lead for you.Try sending off a “can’t wait to hear your voice tonight,” to leave them wanting more.And feel free to use a pet bedroom name if you have one.Although laughing through the awkwardness may work for some people, if it takes you out of the moment, try redirecting to an earlier point of the conversation. I bet you can imagine my warm lips on your penis right now.” Or shift the onus back to your partner with a hot potato-y “tell me more about what you’d do to me."Let’s say your partner goes from 0–60 real fast and starts calling you names you find disrespectful.It’s important for both parties to understand that it’s okay to call a "detour" (detour is a word that can keep things moving, as opposed to stop).Be sure you trust your partner and that he/she won’t weaponize them against you later.Lauren says if you can’t answer quickly and strongly YES to the question, “do I trust my partner? Safe, sane, and consensual is the motto to keep in mind.
As for roleplay scenarios, Lauren suggests: cop, sexy nurse.
Treating phone sex as sexy little appetizing pieces can help take some of the pressure off.
It’s perfectly acceptable to tell your partner these are your fantasies for phone sex only, and not fantasies for reality.
Try teasing your partner like you’re also a music streaming service who refuses to give in to Taylor Swift's demands.
Lauren suggests “setting the stage” with a quick call or flirty text that will make your partner really look forward to talking with you.