Dating a divorced guy with kids
Next, something I know (and have stated repeatedly) about men – of all ages: We do what we want. Which means that even if many widowers throw themselves into new relationships because of their tremendous loneliness, THIS one seems to be functioning more like your basic super-successful middle-aged man. You can give him an extra-wide berth because he’s newly single, but be forewarned: a man who is newly single (and is keeping a little distance) is probably going to want to get a greater sampling of what’s available instead of diving right back into commitment.If he were lonely and desperate to get married, I’d feel better about your chances, but he’s not. Find a real man, not a self involved 40 something man child. Men who are over 40 and never married are worth their weight in trouble. I just have to save my ladies some time and tell the unvarnished truth.
He says he has always taken it slow in dating and this is nothing new.
You know what a widower’s left with when his wife dies? A man’s inability to survive without a woman is a big explanation why a widower is often a very hot ticket on the open market – he’s LOOKING to be married again. But, at a certain point, a man has to step up and give you a reasonable amount of attention and comfort.
Factor in the dearth of older men – there are literally 3 times more single women over the age of 65 – and, well, a decent looking widower doesn’t stay available for very long. And if he fails, he risks losing the woman he cares about.
A full Spin class is a bummer but not a life changer; certainly not the same level of upset as discovering your child’s racked up a cellphone bill of over 8 in one month. Being a parent, you’re used to the quick change of plans. Someone vomits in their backpack on the way to school and suddenly you are working from home that day. Yes, we’ve been married and our marriages failed but at least we had the courage to say I Do. Women so young and naive that they can’t discern their emotional disabilities.
Put the coconut water on the top shelf by mistake and thought he was going to collapse in his granite perfection of a kitchen in a full on seizure. Being married before means you are brave enough to make a commitment. Don’t believe their professions that they just haven’t found “someone”. Leave these men to embarrass themselves and date cocktail waitresses who are 22.