Dating a pleaser
Part of the reason that it’s negative is because when we see someone put other people’s values and priorities above their own, it immediately lowers their value in a subconscious manner.
Oh, what are other traits of a nice guy or a people-pleaser?Well, that’s not a relationship, that’s just appeasement.And it’s no wonder that women aren’t attracted to it! Suddenly you’re wracked with feelings of obligation and guilt as opposed to attraction and respect…This was a huge gift — and a paradigm shift, no doubt. It’s a tactic we use to create connection, but it has the opposite effect.I realized how significant this interaction was — not only for me but for couples everywhere. Our sneaky egos tell us, “If you do what he likes, then he’ll like you.” Sure, there’s logic there.