Dating a single dad
So, when it comes to sex, especially during the week, take the lead. We’ve likely been the leader all day long because a) we have to be as a single parent; b) we’re expected to be as men.
It takes some serious project management skills; planning; forethought; and efficiency of resources including time, money, food, clothing, education, and entertainment.
(This applies to all single parents, but I’m focused on dads here.) Single dads work 5-to-9.
Sometimes, and all parents can attest, sleep doesn’t even begin until as late as 11 PM; and it’s only Monday. If he’s up at 5 AM and moving until 11 PM and has to get up at 5 AM the following morning, he’s getting 6 hours of sleep for an 18 hour day.
Just knowing that you see him lets him know that he’s doing well as a parent, as a friend, a partner, and a man.
Send him some ideas for entertaining kids on rainy and snowy days.
Insecurity just makes him feel like he has one more responsibility, one more duty, one more item to plan.
As exhausted and frazzled as he is, he’s still desirable and worthy of an adult relationship.
I didn’t tell him this right away, but the reason I would turn him down was because of the fact he had a kid. It’s definitely a possibility, but I don’t feel ready at this stage.I tried to create some distance between us, but he somehow convinced me to go on a date with him.We had a great time and almost kissed at the end of the night, but I abruptly said “goodnight” before the kiss happened.But all I could think about for weeks after reading this was, Where is the list for dating a single dad? This is not news, but this creates an additional challenge as a father. Where is the support for the woman interested in a man with children? There is a lot for a dad to learn along the way, on his own; and he is usually winging it as best he can. While providing all of those things he never had as a child, he’s reminded of what he never had as a child.