Dating an emotionally damaged girl
But the ‘Broken Woman’ is someone who takes vulnerability to an uncomfortable level.She acts like someone who is ‘damaged goods’, who needs taking care of.Guys like seeing the occasional hint of vulnerability so that they can be protective and reassuring.Sprinkled here and there, it works wonders because it makes him feel needed.A more likely response from a guy who sees this kind of attitude is “I’m really glad we’re not ordering dessert”.Guys have their own version of this too: the Wounded Soldier Complex.
As Carl Rogers says: Really hearing someone […] is like listening to the music of the spheres, because beyond the immediate message of the person, no matter what that might be, there is the universal.
Infants, puppies and adult dogs all got greater sympathy than the 30-year-old human […] They cared more about creatures who were perceived as innocent and helpless […] Full-grown adults are more likely to be seen as capable of taking care of themselves.
These and other behaviors are not nice to put up with from the damaged person.
I’m not knocking vulnerability, nor am I saying that some of us don’t have very painful memories in our past. The Broken Woman Syndrome is really about when a woman mistakes being ‘vulnerable’ with being ‘damaged’.
Vulnerability, in the right doses, is sweet and endearing.