Dating the undatable guy
.action_button.action_button:active.action_button:hover.action_button:focus.action_button:hover.action_button:focus .count.action_button:hover .count.action_button:focus .count:before.action_button:hover .count:before.u-margin-left--sm.u-flex.u-flex-auto.u-flex-none.bullet. Error Banner.fade_out.modal_overlay.modal_overlay .modal_wrapper.modal_overlay [email protected](max-width:630px)@media(max-width:630px).modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:before.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:before.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:before.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:hover:before. The undateable guy, whether he's wearing Crocs, sipping girlie drinks or naming parts of his anatomy, is a "huge problem," says Coyle. "We wrote the book almost in the tone of your great big sister who knows you can take it and feels the need to help you out." There's a serious side, too.Danny Burton is a 34-year-old carefree single guy who has watched most of his friends move on to serious relationships.When his last remaining single friend Shannon moves out to get married, Danny searches for a new roommate.“I did it to show I’m relatively normal,” he explains.
"A really nice guy, very funny," Coyle remembers, "a good guy." But there was something wrong: This grown man, this 45-year-old father, had a small square of facial hair growing under his lip, a style known to sweater-wearing poets and Olympic speedskaters as the "soul patch." "I was sort of like, 'Hmm, not what I would have ordered off the menu. "But I just couldn't do it." Her friends told her maybe he could just shave the thing off. If your flaws are innocent, like maybe you own jorts (jean shorts) or wear novelty belt buckles, you might be able to be fixed! If you like him and there's a chance at something substantial, then undateable traits can be repaired. He'll get it." But if the flaws are too great, and expose true personality defects -- treating waitresses badly or sporting a full body wax -- then flee.
While Danny himself has good luck getting women into bed, he is unable or unwilling to form a lasting commitment with any of them.
Danny's older sister, Leslie, has similar fears about being undateable, having the "baggage" of being a mid-30s divorcee.
"I said, 'I know, but he can't shave off the part of his brain that thinks that growing one is a good idea,' " she says, laughing. What are the things guys — and women — say, wear or do that make them undateable? E-mail [email protected] include your name (your first name, at least) and hometown. The experience became the seed for "Undateable: 311 Things Guys Do That Guarantee They Won't be Dating or Having Sex" (, Villard Books) a savagely funny -- and savagely honest -- new book that's an intervention of sorts for single guys. "If it's something like a bad belt, a fanny pack or some dad shoes, then take them shopping," she advises. "Don't overlook the things that are really the kiss of death for you," Rakieten says.
"And that's the real problem." Talk to us Too much perfume? "Don't sell yourself short." By this point, some guys reading this are no doubt ready to take these women on a long date off a short cliff.