Let’s simplify dating by being committed to these principles, rather than a set of extra-biblical practices.Despite seeming like a relatively stable place, the Earth's surface has changed dramatically over the past 4.6 billion years.Mountains have been built and eroded, continents and oceans have moved great distances, and the Earth has fluctuated from being extremely cold and almost completely covered with ice to being very warm and ice-free.These changes typically occur so slowly that they are barely detectable over the span of a human life, yet even at this instant, the Earth's surface is moving and changing.He was reacting against the casual, recreational, aimless dating that had come to dominate the American landscape. But, as we are so prone to do, we took good principles and distorted them and distilled them into a series of unhelpful/legalistic practices.He was trying to help young men and women stop hurting each other through the endless hooking up, breaking up, hooking up, breaking up, etc. Dating/courting has turned into an elaborate set of unwritten rules which must be followed to the letter, no matter what the circumstances. But the reality is, you can’t slap these practices on top of every relationship and expect the relationship to go well.Life has so many hues, and each person is so different.Wisdom is an essential component when thinking through this issue.
Loving Jesus first and foremost means seeking him above all else and obeying his commands above all else. Once this is set firmly in place for both individuals in the relationship, many of the other details will fall into place.
It simply means that they open their lives up to other believers.
Christians pursue Jesus, pursue wisdom, pursue purity, and pursue community. The practice of these principles will look very different in each relationship.
Dating couples are called to let other Christians speak the truth in love to them.
This doesn’t mean that they hang out exclusively in groups, or only in the context of their extended families.