Kid and dating after divorce
"As long as the changes you make are healthy and constructive, these are very appropriate," says Alberti.
"Think about who you want to be -- the person you were before the marriage, or maybe a new person?
Being alone doesn't mean being isolated and never seeing anyone.
It just means not being coupled up, or in a rush to do so.
"That's a lot of people, and there are a lot of opportunities for social connection.
There are possibilities to pick up new friends and enter different kinds of groups that have to do with your interests.
"It's common to sweep these emotions under the table, but you have to work through them or they'll pollute your life going forward," Alberti says.
If you find yourself resisting the idea of therapy, you might want to keep in mind that therapy doesn't mean you have a problem or that you're in crisis.
Here are eight of the first steps: Nobody gets married thinking, "I sure hope we can get divorced someday!It can be a way to work toward a better life, with someone who has no agenda but YOU. But the fact is that many people feel a lot of self-rejection after a divorce."You might think that there must be something wrong with you if you couldn't make this relationship work," Alberti says."For example, maybe you've always dated people from a certain socioeconomic background," Alberti says."Or perhaps you always preferred sensitive musicians, or athletes, or the quiet, shy type.