Online dating academics
Yet, out there in the dating jungle I continually encounter one of two scenarios: (1) younger women (mid to late 20s) who do not seem to understand or accept my choice to lead an academic life and figure I just haven’t matured enough to move beyond “school," or (2) the successful independent women my own age or older who I want to date -- yet while they enjoy my intelligence and desire to invest in relationship potential, nonetheless seem to hold me to a double-standard that I should lead a more “masculine” life (i.e.
On the flip side, there are some who have very little formal education, yet are some of the smartest and most well informed people I know.
Things are tricky as an academic male since one is often surrounded by all sorts of attractive women (in the humanities, certainly) who are totally off-limits (i.e. Embedded in this seemingly hermetic social environment, one must break out and find a partner who is outside this milieu but stimulating enough to be an appropriate mate – and let’s face it – can tolerate the weird life we academics lead: publishing or perishing.
The point of this discussion is not to wallow, but I must say after dating (and not particularly successfully) for a year in Southern California, I am feeling a bit discouraged.
Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing...