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In a fascinating study published in the , University of Texas psychologists Paul Eastwick and Lucy Hunt show that in more dating contexts, a person’s “mate value” matters less than their “unique value.” The authors explain that they define “mate value” as the average first impression of how attractive someone is, based largely on things like looks, charisma, and professional success, and “unique value” as the extent to which someone rates a specific person above or below that average first impression.
What I found is that a first date that was a six was usually an eight on the second date.
When we examined procrastination, we talked about how a great achievement is just what a long series of unremarkable tasks looks like from far away.
The number is surely much higher among adults, especially now that online dating is so prevalent, but even people who meet through Tinder or Ok Cupid are much more likely to turn a random first date into a meaningful relationship if they follow the advice of our Monroe friend Jimmy: There’s something uniquely valuable in everyone, and we’ll be much happier and better off if we invest the time and energy it takes to find it.