Sexual assualt while dating
A sense of security may be totally absent, according to Paul Tobias, Ph D, a Los Angeles psychologist.
Abuse survivors and their partners should consider counseling, whether it's with a therapist, self-help group, or religious organization, says Judith Herman, MD, a psychiatrist on the faculty at Harvard School of Medicine.
Recently, Haney flew into a jealous rage when her boyfriend took a phone call from a woman friend in her presence.
She admits she is more comfortable with casual flings, partly because the closer she gets to a man emotionally, the less she wants to have sex with him.
"I got upset, and he tried to talk to me about it, but I wouldn't talk about it," she says.
"I couldn't say what I wanted to, and he got frustrated." The impact of childhood sexual abuse on adult intimacy varies from person to person, but experts say Haney's relationship troubles are not uncommon.
When those abused as children try to form adult romantic relationships, they can be affected by anxiety, depression, and poor self-esteem.
Some have no sexual desire; others may have a high sex drive.